Reputation

Apparently, I have a reputation at school.  Unbeknownst to me, the 2nd and 3rd graders in the classroom across the hall have some opinions about me that I discovered yesterday.  In the classroom, I am definitely more on the firm side and less on the warm-and-fuzzy side, but my students know how much I love learning and love them; they understand the importance of expectations and ownership and responsibility and also how much I care for each one of them, even on the difficult days.

Yesterday, we were outside at recess (with what seemed like the rest of the school trying to get a few minutes of fresh air before our school-wide talent show), and I had just stepped onto the blacktop with my yellow duty vest on.  I struck up a conversation with a student in another blended 2nd/3rd grade class about how many students were out at recess, and midway through the conversation, he cocked his head and looked at me for a moment.

“Miss Hansen, you know what?” he asked.

“What, buddy?” I replied, scanning the playground to make sure students were safe amidst the chaos.

“Even though some kids say you’re kind of mean, I think you’re pretty nice when people actually talk to you.”

I stopped scanning the playground and looked at this student for a moment.  “Wait, say that again,” I said, curious about what sparked this comment.

“Well, you know how sometimes in the hallway we’re loud and you tell us to be quiet?  I don’t think that makes you mean, though.”

I knew exactly what he was talking about; I give frequent reminders to his class about hallway expectations.  I had to stop myself from chuckling.  “Thanks, buddy.  I hope not!”

One of my students was dribbling his basketball nearby and overheard the conversation.  “Wait, did you just say Miss Hansen is mean?  No way, dude!”  He came over to join us.  “Miss Hansen, you’re not mean at all!  You even gave us extra recess today,” he exclaimed.

I smiled at both boys.  “Thanks, I’m glad you think that.”  As they ran off to play, the honesty of the exchange made me laugh.  And it also caused me to pause and reflect.  How am I caring for our students both inside and outside of the classroom?  How can I do better?  In a school where an increasing number of students come to school and find safety and love within our walls that they might not find at home, I need to make sure that my demeanor (whether in the hallway or classroom or in the community) reflects my care and commitment to each and every student.

That student’s innocent comment made me smile but also led to a moment of reflection.  How does a reputation develop?  How easy is it to change?  What implications does this have for my teaching?  How can I grow?

slice-of-life

I am participating in the Slice of Life challenge to write and publish a post each day in March.   Thanks to Two Writing Teachers for creating a place for writers to share their work all month long and hosting the March Slice of Life Story Challenge!

 

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13 thoughts on “Reputation

  1. I appreciate the courage you have to reflect. That is not easy. You are doing the hard work of teaching well. I can tell that your students are able to see that discipline is a form of love. Thanks for reminding me to reflect on my practice.

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  2. My first year of teaching I was in a country where I didn’t initially speak the language. One morning I heard my name on the morning announcements and looked to my 7th graders to tell me what was being said. It seems the students had just voted for teachers in various categories, and i had won for “Whose class can you most be yourselves in?”

    I said, “Oh, that’s not good.”

    They said, “Yes, teacher! Is good! Very good!”

    So I’ve always struggled with balancing being seen as a pushover with “we can be ourselves with her.” Your balance is between being seen as mean and being firm and reliable. I think being aware of our tendencies and how that affects the perception of our students is really valuable!

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  3. This was such an interesting post to ponder. What reputation do we have with kids? How does it start? How can it change? Thanks for sharing, sometimes tough love and consistent expectations aren’t “fun” but kids really count on us to be the ‘grown up’!! I’m going to do more reflecting!

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  4. Kids will say the darnedest things and it is up to us to ponder what their words mean. I am impressed by the thought you are giving to this child’s words. We can all learn from your reflection.

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  5. I appreciate you sharing your honest reflection in your post. Kids are great for many reasons, but also, more times than not, offer honest and authentic feedback. Building these relationships are so important!

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  6. The best teachers, the ones who really made the biggest difference in my life, were the “mean” ones – the ones who wouldn’t let me get away with slacking off, who wouldn’t let me zone out in class, the ones who made me learn to focus, to pick up after myself, to take responsibility, who gave me detention when I needed it. The “mean” teachers helped me overcome some major life challenges and become the person I am today, because they cared about me enough to make me angry, trusting that one day I would understand why they hadn’t just stood to the side and done nothing. So, relish your reputation – the “mean” teachers are often the ones who care the most, and who make the most difference in their students’ lives!

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